Do you find yourself always overthinking? Does your mind never seem to stop or rest? Are you constantly thinking about all the things you’ve got to do? Or are you going over and over something that has already happened and that you cannot change?
When my clients explain to me all the different directions their minds go, what I hear often is “I must sound crazy!”
What I tell each of them is that they are not alone. We all have the inner dialogue and constant mind chatter. But what I have realised is that mostly the conversation in our heads is critical and rarely positive.
What we can do though, is learn to quieten and calm our internal voice so that we don’t get so caught up or lost in it.
So how do we start to be kinder to ourselves? I’m sure we could all do with a bit of that!
Try these 3 tips to soften the internal chatter, feel calmer and less anxious but also to be more aware of what’s going on in the present moment.
1. Become aware of the internal chatter. The first thing is to stop for a moment and become aware of the dialogue we are telling ourselves. Notice if it’s kind or critical. By making ourselves aware of the chatter we can start to slow it down.
2. Be Kinder to yourself. Start by giving yourself a few words of encouragement. Perhaps tell yourself you’ll get through this challenging time, that you’ll feel differently tomorrow, or that you are allowed to feel upset but it will pass. Remember nothing is permanent.
3. It’s ok to make mistakes. We all get it a little wrong sometimes. Perhaps we could have done something differently but by recognising this we give ourselves the opportunity to do it differently next time and learn from past experiences.
Remember: Start small, there’s no hurry….Take a break from the constant mind chatter for just one minute today.
P.S. Which of these 3 tips helped you become more aware of what’s going on around you right here right now? I’d love to hear how you are getting on…… Reply to this email if you’re struggling and need a little inspiration to make a start! Or email me [email protected]